Are You Giving Your Power Away?

I heard this quote at a retreat I attended at the beginning of the year “We became resentful of people to the extent that we have given our power away to them.”

When we value peace and are working on our spiritual growth the last thing we want, is to became resentful. How do we give our power away to others? By wanting their approval.

Why do we want other people’s approval? Because we don’t feel good enough and we only approve of ourselves when others approve of us.

Giving your power away is a self-defeating behaviour. Why?

1. You have no personal power to make decisions

When you need other people approval, you have no personal power to make decisions. You are looking at others to give you their opinions and advice. This makes you unsure of yourself, lowers your self-confidence and can keep you stuck for years in situations that are not good for you.

When you are not sure of your decision you oscillate in your resolve and even run the risk to take your decision back if it’s not met with approval.

Let’s say you decided that one of your employees is not fitting with your new company values, with the new direction you are envisioning going, and you decide to let them go. You call the meeting and inform them of your decision. Do you feel unease? Do you explain why you did it? Do you feel the need for them to agree with you?

“You don’t need the other person to agree for your decision to be complete.” Irina Mihaela

2. You are disconnected from your feelings

When you seek approval from others you are disconnected from your feelings. This is because you are not focused internally to perceive how things feel to you, instead you are focused externally to see how the others feel and act in consequence to please them or to gain their approval.

Most of us learn this behaviour in the family of origin especially if we were neglected or abused in any way. But you are an adult now and it is time to claim your power back. You are not depending on others for survival anymore. You can take steps to unlearn the self-defeating patterns.

Your feelings are your guiding force when you want to progress on your personal growth and achieve greater levels of success.

You can learn to be your own and only authority figure, to know how you feel in any given situation and to be able to confidently make decisions that are good for you and stick with them.

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