What drives your success?

What drives your success?

I had discovered a deep-seated limiting belief that I must succeed in order to be loved. This is the elusive carrot for many people, and chasing it leads to exhaustion, dissatisfaction and defeat.

On the other side of the same coin, there was the frustration of not understanding why someone would not love me when I delivered great results to them.

Those two patterns kept me constantly evaluating if I am worthy of love or not—what a waste of time and mental energy.

I am worthy of love just because I am. There is nothing I need to do or prove. Love cannot be earned.

Love just is. I am love.

Once I understood this, I panicked. Do I really want to let go of those patterns? If I let go of the need to be successful, how will I achieve my big dream of influencing the world towards lasting peace? What will drive me?

The answer:
My love for myself.

I learned that I needed to earn love early in my childhood when many demands were put on me. I was punished or ignored if I did not succeed in meeting them. It has taken me more than a decade and a thousand hours of healing to release those patterns.

How about you? Do you feel you need to earn love? Is fear driving your success?

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Elevate Peace,

Irina Mihaela